STABILIZE
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Care without turning preference into panic.
A Hook forms when something you value starts to feel like a condition for being okay.
Care vs Control
Care: I value this.
Control: It has to go my way, or I will not be okay.
Keep the caring. Lose the panic.
Hook signals
- Rush: it has to be now.
- Narrowing: one result is the only acceptable one.
- Tension: a tight jaw, chest, gut, or hands.
- Rules for others: they ought to, they must.
- Dread: without this, it is over for me.
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Caring: “I value this.” A Hook: “It has to happen, or I am not okay.”
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